Dearly cherished, our company is collected right here right now to get through this thing known as⦠a season finale! Yes, it really is correct, this episode marks the conclusion absolutely the smash hit that has been S2 of
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
And celebrate that closing, exactly who safer to seriously and talk about the joys and positive results of a long range crush, than star and queer individual Elise Bauman? You may acknowledge Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer Christmas time rom-com that can come
According To The Xmas Tree
,
but around these elements, she’s another concept definitely nearly as vaunted: Drew’s sweetheart! Yes, yes it’s true, this sparkling twosome had been birthed through the fantastic queer tradition: the long-distance crush.
But what can it be regarding the long-distance crush definitely so attracting queers internationally? Could it be the relative scarcity of like-minded queers near you? Perhaps the ability to flirt cross country requires many of the force down? The 3 folks enter all of it, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly TOO sexy information about their own relationship!
And of course there was a game! Recently, I make Drew play the video game that merely took over Twitter and Tiktok for several momentary months: “they are a 10 but⦔ its a good time, all over!
PROGRAM RECORDS
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IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it however rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠without a doubt very compelling!
+ Will Shortz is definitely title associated with the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: after which we got from the phone, then we both hopped on the phone two seconds afterwards we’re like, “and so the border is actually closed, we have been lawfully not allowed to truly get over the line.”
Christina
: after all, top among certainly my favorite voice memos as well as messages i obtained from Drew, i cannot bear in mind which kind it was available in, it absolutely was want, “I made this plan of action and from now on the boundaries are closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it absolutely was a real minute.
[theme tune performs]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And this is
Hold Off, So Is This A Night Out Together?
Christina
:
Wait, Is It A Romantic Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast presented by me personally having the giggles, as well as the question definitely on everyone’s mouth, wait, ended up being this a night out together?
Drew
: we are after our 2nd season, and I think we solved it, i believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe i am simply taking big finale electricity, like when comedies had previously been before a business audience, and everyone would walk in so there ended up being an hour or so of applause since it had been like, oahu is the last, that’s how I’m experiencing. Though is clear, no one provides applauded me but, hateful. Many thanks, thank you. Today personally i think loved and used. Drew, who’re you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this component.
Christina
: Yeah, correct?
Drew:
Perhaps period three we’ll have the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i’m a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. You know what, In my opinion whenever we do another season i do want to have an enjoyable one we throw-in at the conclusion.
Christina
: Ooh, something spicy, you want to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have something now however.
Christina
: Okay, keep them hoping even more, I think which is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: I am Christina Tucker, i will be in addition a writer at Autostraddle, and also the internet at-large. A podcaster, a meeting gay black girl, and someone that’s feeling very jazzy listed here about afternoon.
Drew
: Great, i am actually grateful that you’re jazzy and I also’m spicy, or at least i am planning for the possibility that sooner or later i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, the very first half the movie Dune, the spice should come. Cool reference, girls, she is solitary. Anyhow, i really do have a game title for us to experience on this hollowed day of all of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: Here Is The traditional, and by classic What I’m Saying Is a-game that overran the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They’re a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: Now Drew, i’ll set-out some ground guidelines obtainable, because i am aware you love a follow up question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: While I say they may be a 10, they truly are a 10 for you at all that matters to you personally, that would be actually, which can be mentally, this is simply one you’re feeling is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, ok, thanks a lot.
Christina
: i really do n’t have any scenarios for what more you within individual currently doing inside matchmaking life, you are just going to have to go along with your gut and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: fine?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we are going to put in which make that clear, here we get. They are a 10, nevertheless they clap whenever plane lands.
Drew
: I always felt like people were also dramatic with this particular, in which it is like they may be a 10 which thing makes them head to a two, seriously.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m gonna nevertheless give a pretty ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, i believe that is reasonable. I do believe eight may be the proper quantity of cringe removal for that small activity. Fine, this really is outstanding beginning. Okay, they can be a nine even so they never ever text you first.
Drew
: And I cannot ask follow up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I cannot ask, really perform they content me personally back when I text? I’d say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting very first actually, that’s crude.
Drew
: previously is actually strange.
Christina
: which is harsh material. Fine, these are typically a five even so they drive you to definitely every errand you have had to run.
Drew
: That’s really nice, but i really could constantly⦠If there had been five, we’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you adore an unicamente jaunt in any event, you like an errand run.
Drew
:I mean today my personal sweetheart Elise did drive us to an errand, and I also was actually extremely pleased, in case that was the only thing she performed we mightn’t maintain a connection, which was merely an additional little wonderful added bonus.
Christina
: I think that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: okay, these are typically a seven nevertheless they merely pretend to read through work.
Drew
: understand part of that that bothers me personally could be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it would be.
Drew
: It isn’t really the maybe not checking out it. If they don’t review might work it is like, I am not that, I’d end up being only a little, it’s like never ever? But it’s good, i possibly could overcome it. Nonetheless they lie to me about that is exactly what’s strange for me, to ensureshould go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, appropriate. They’ve been a three nonetheless have access to the criterion cabinet.
Drew
: And would I have one go?
Christina
: therefore have access, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a solid affair with that six.
Christina
: I think you could potentially. It had been a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what I’m stating, i am knocking it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I really like that. They can be an eight but their friends tend to be straight.
Drew
: Okay, there seemed to be some discourse about that, because i do believe there was clearly a you will want help. I think I maybe ended up being about face-to-face area of all associated with the Autostraddle group which asserted that its fine to only have directly pals. I wish to say that truly great, it is simply not the life span We lead. All direct buddies, that will go to a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will must go along with you on that one, I would personally simply believe it is a tiny bit troubling, perplexing.
Drew
: All straight friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are new to queerness and are generally attempting to satisfy even more queer people, that’s different than if they are a recognised period queer that is want, you know what? I like being one lesbian in my buddy gang of straight folks.
Christina
: Yeah, i’d have the in an identical way when it ended up being an Ebony individual that was like, “I don’t have any Ebony buddies,” i’d end up like, “what’s happening there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a system sitcom, we can not have a token individual.
Christina
: you don’t have to be the token, you should not do that to yourself. Okay, we now have three more. They’re a seven however they spend all their unique free time at the gym, continuously lifting weights up and down. I’m not sure what folks do in the gym.
Drew
: All of their spare time. I assume it depends on which counts as sparetime. We’ll state a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump all of them down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: But that’s good. I suppose this will depend largely for me personally, which I’m not inquiring a take concern, I’m keeping five, however it depends for me what matters as time.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: Can we watch movies collectively, or head out to eat, usually sparetime? Just isn’t operate time free time, or is it simply like when we lack other activities?
Christina
: we notice you, we notice you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick to five.
Christina
: All right. They can be six, but their mother is actually hotter than they’re.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: i am aware, correct?
Drew
: I do not believe i really could ever before date somebody for their⦠It is like if I’m not drawn to some one in the first place, I’m perhaps not gonna be online dating all of them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I’m not will be similar, well, they can turn into their particular hot mom. In my opinion I would point out that they can be nonetheless a six, i am only likely to perhaps not call them and I also’m gonna contact their mother.
Christina
: Yeah, I feel think its great’s like you remain alike, but possibly I spend time with you somewhat more than i might to be able-
Drew
: That’s a good point.
Christina
: to have some mother time. I don’t consider you alter.
Drew
: I did anything really poor that I still feel defectively in regards to, and that is that somebody requested me down, and this also was actually once I was a student in school, and I also wasn’t curious, therefore I was obvious about that, I became clear I wasn’t interested. But she wanted to be pals, and I could tell that she mentioned she planned to be friends however it was actually from location-
Christina
: She ended up being wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing usually every one of the woman friends had been truly hot and cool, and so I performed always been the woman pal in order to go out together with her friends. I didn’t sit about my purposes normally, nevertheless however was not the best thing I did so as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: i am talking about unfortuitously it reminds me personally of this bout of
Sex while the City
in which Carrie’s dating, i really believe it is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but his household rocks, and she is like, i could repeat this for a little. I am like, yeah, absolutely, exactly who could not.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t trying to hook up together with household, which is the huge difference, but you understand what? Its okay, all of us are great.
Christina
: A hookup will look like such a thing, I’m constantly stating that.
Drew
: that is a truly fantastic point.
Christina
: your own last any, is actually a three but provides a beach household.
Drew
: i am going to say a frustrating phrase, but I visited NYU.
Christina
: awful to express.
Drew
: something sucks about me personally, which this is exactly probably appear to be a simple brag, since it is really most likely an effective fictional character attribute, it sucks as an individual going through the world. We went along to a school that is full of rich those who have a number of amazing coastline homes, and all sorts of these other activities, and I also merely turned into pals with others who have been indeed there on scholarships. Not only, but largely, we positively, i did not socialize with others who’d beach residences.
Christina
: You didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, I really believe if they’re a three even so they have actually a coastline house, they may be most likely a two. The truth⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you simply can not make that jump to utilize the sick coastline home moment.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m really wanting is my pals who are pretty down-to-earth, great individuals, more of them basically browsing continue to get that new money immediately after which get beach homes, and then i’m going to be in a position to hang out with my great buddies and start to become at a beach residence. That’s the fantasy where I could get the beach residence.
Christina
: that is the fantasy at the end of the day, it is brand-new money and a coastline house, which is all we are looking. You heard it here 1st people.
Drew
: I love new cash.
Christina
: Love new cash.
Drew
: Love brand-new money. Yeah, that was a delight. I’d really, I would actually already been attempting to play that online game because it ended up being something on TikTok, very thanks a lot to make my personal hopes and dreams come true.
Christina
: I was thinking it might be a great a person to perform, and it was actually extremely enjoyable to generate all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to the main part on the week, which is slipping for those who live-in other towns and cities. Which can be different than long distance relationships, because long distance connections can start well into an union, they could carry on into a connection, here is the desire that queer people have to check out their location they stay and get, no, I am not attending flirt by using these folks, I’m going to go on instagram.com and find someone who resides extremely miles away. And now we have a, I’m sure we always say an extremely unique guest, however for me personally this really is a very unique guest. Want to introduce your self?
Elise
: I would love to present me. Have always been I the unique guest?
Drew
: you may be, yes.
Christina
: child, definitely.
Elise
: Great, wow, amazing. My name is Elise Bauman, i am an actor, I’m a queer individual, and that I’m here now because i am asleep with among the hosts.
Christina
: Guess which?
Elise
: Yeah, other podcast is only the market trying decipher which host I’m resting with. I really like that, it’s like a murder puzzle but-
Christina
: There’s no solution to understand.
Elise
: there is strategy to understand. Yeah, does this generate myself a nepotism infant? Is the fact that how the sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, that is the way the sector really works, babe.
Elise
: kind, wonderful.
Christina
: This is it.
Elise
: Wow, possibly I could get a career out of this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed available.
Elise
: Nepo baby to position, wow, fantastic. I’ve always wished to be a nepo infant.
Christina
: i am very glad.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself simply probably claim that for folks who do not know, well now I’m damaging the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and that I are located in a commitment, and performed begin dating during the pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and I inhabit la, which are indeed different towns and cities, and tend to be indeed in numerous countries.
Elise
: These include without a doubt, they’re certainly.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say you went against your own instinct, but i really do feel as though you happen to be often somebody who says, exactly why bother with a long range minute? Discover men and women listed here I can date, exactly why do this to yourself? You are aware it will be tough, you are aware it will likely be hard, so why do this? But here you happen to be.
Drew
: See, that’s fascinating, because personally i think like i usually appreciated to own a bit of both, i recently think I didn’t grab the long distance types maybe because seriously.
Christina
: perhaps that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i usually loved a lengthy distance flirt.
Christina
: True.
Drew
: And so I believe this simply kept going. Once we started-
Elise
: and so the solution, Drew, was not that I happened to be only attractive and it was actually personal if you ask me, and this was really specific for me that I was merely incredibly amazing which means you simply broke all guidelines therefore said, “i need to have any particular one.”
Drew
: I mean truly kind of the clear answer in a lengthier feeling. In the same manner it merely kept going on. Right after which all of our close friends in the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, whom we accustomed accept, as some people may know, I would personally often be like, I’d end up being wanting to date men and women through the pandemic in L. A. and also the encompassing regions of L. A.. Then they’d generate enjoyable of myself because I would personally sometimes you should be love, “i am talking about, i really could just make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I was always, “after all, {this person|this i